Q: There is an article on your website entitled, “The Sin of Being Offended”. I have read it numerous times because of a difficult situation we are having with another family member. All parties involved are Christians and we have met with them to discuss the situation yet nothing has really been resolved. I am still hurt by their actions. Mainly because they have shown no remorse or apology. How do I stop being offended? Obviously the person suffering in this situation is me, but I cannot figure out how to move on.
Stephanie Arizona
A: Hello Stephanie,
I can tell that you are deeply bothered and hurt by the actions of this particular family member. Limit your time around them if at all possible. Until they are able to take responsibility for their actions, whatever they do is going to end up causing you pain. It appears that you have done all that you can do on your end to remedy the situation. Ask God to prepare your heart to offer forgiveness if they do come and ask. And be careful limit the amount of time you spend with them (i.e. holidays, birthdays, etc.) You don’t want to be around people who hurt you.
There is a book that comes to mind when I hear your story. I recommend it to a lot of people. It’s entitled, “
Boundaries” by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. Get this book. I know it will bless you.
God’s blessings,
Dr. Tim
