Q:

Dr. Tim: I have a brother who has been abusing drugs and alcohol for many years now. How do I get him to move closer to me so I can be there for him on a daily basis? He insists on living by himself miles away from any family. I feel like if he moves closer I will be better able to assist in saving his life. He is a great person on the inside and just needs to get connected with good people and a new beginning. Thank you, Ashlee

Ashlee

A:

I am so sorry to hear about your situation. Unfortunately, there really is nothing you can do to make your brother move home. He has to be willing to change. You are not going to be able to will it for him. What you can do is research what is available to him in the area in which he lives—like treatment programs, support groups, churches, etc. and gently offer your help in walking with him through the healing process. Approach him in love, not condemnation. Remember, he has to be willing to change.

It may seem the only thing you can do for him in the time being is pray for him. But it’s not the only you can do, it’s the BEST thing you can do. If you need help locating services in his area, take a look at our website www.ecounseling.com as there is a counselor locator tab that can help you locate a professional counselor in your area or state who can provide services over the phone, in-person, or over the internet.

I can tell you have a strong love for your brother and he is blessed to have you!